“Thank you. I’ve had a perfectly wonderful evening, but this wasn't it.” (Groucho Marx)
Through my personal experience and through the experiences of my friends, colleagues and spiritual companions, I’ve frequently noticed the desire and the concurrent difficulty to find a romantic relationship which could be truly defined significant and important. Everything, of course, can be a vehicle of value and meaning, even the classical ‘one-night-stand’; however, most of the people around me want something more than a fleeting fling or a momentary hormonal release. So this reflections are supposed to target those who consider relationships a chance for creating and experiencing harmony, joy, reciprocity and mutual personal growth.
This search can unfortunately be contaminated by anxiety feelings reinforced and accentuated through the social and familiar conditioning. At a certain age you ‘should’ settle down, you ‘should’ find Mr/Ms Right and, especially for women, you ‘should’ have children. Such diktat stifle that unique beauty in every form of life, especially in human beings. The ongoing homologation of emotions, experiences and thoughts turns the search of this mythical soulmate into something compulsive and vitiated by misleading stereotypes. We frequently get involved in unhappy relationships where every partner hopelessly projects on the other a role or a destiny he/she’s not meant to fulfill, because it’s not his/hers.
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