“Love requited is a short circuit.”(Samuel Beckett)
“Why do we prefer that of an impossible love to any other story? Because we like burning and be aware of what is burning in us.”(Denis de Rougemont)
Versione italiana al link: Sono innamorata e sono fatti miei
A pain in the ass that sooner or later will happen to everyone on this fantastic planet is that of impossible love or unrequited love. Rivers of ink and cascades of tears have been shed about this experience which, in my opinion, can be highly constructive and even initiatory - though painful.
In the title of the song ‘I'm in love and it's my business’, albeit in a humorous tone, is enclosed some trace of truth. The ‘other’ can certainly be the fuse that ignites the process of falling in love, but one must remember that this flame is ours. It is up to us to find out how to manage it and how to get something good out of it, without too much 'blaming' or 'idealizing' the supposed partner.
Generally, and it is understandable, such energy immediately seeks a discharge and satisfaction outside, that is, we try to ‘conquer’ the beloved object, and if this goes well, the well-known joys and sorrows of every human relationship begin.
If, however, it happens that the object of our desire does not reciprocate our feeling, we have two possibilities: either we change object - an intelligent choice- or we change direction to this energy - a transcendent choice. Sometimes, unfortunately, we choose the highly unadvisable option of obsessively haunting a poor Christ who, on an examination of reality, will not reflect even a tenth of the fantasies we embroider on him/her.
But let's also say that we are in the grip of a devastating crush and we can't get a person out of our heads. What can we do? Burn. Let's take a step back and look at the power, at the beauty of this wonderful energy of desire in us. Let's ride the wave, let's tame the flame without extinguishing it. It is very difficult, but it is worth it. We know that it can be a highly destructive force - see Goethe's poor Werther - but once channeled, it has enormous creative and constructive potential.
For example: let's study the object of our love, let's list the wonderful characteristics that we attribute to it and let's try to evoke and cultivate them in us. Let's become what we love, in a progressive movement of refinement or fulfillment of ourselves. If nothing else, we could become a little more complete, less needy and less petulant and therefore perhaps even more attractive for potential future partners.
So let's cultivate the sacred fire of eros in us, which is basically a gift, and let's make it become a continuous falling in love, a desire for care and embrace towards every being, an infinite tension towards the Mystery of Life.
Here is the video of English version of the song, then you can find the lyrics and the Italian translation:
I’M IN LOVE AND IT’S MY BUSINESS
YOU WALK AWAY, YOU DON’T SAY GOODBYE, OH MY!
AND I WONDER IF I SHOULD BE CRYING
YOU DON’T CONNECT, YOU DON’T TEXT, NO WHATSAPP AND YET
I CAN FIND NOTHING TO OBJECT
‘CAUSE I’M IN LOVE AND IT’S MY BUSINESS, SUCH A COMPLETENESS
AND YOU DON’T HAVE TO BE IN LOVE WITH ME, IN LOVE WITH ME
YOU LEFT ME HERE, YOU STAY WITH HER, BUT I DON’T CARE, I ASSUME
YOU’RE IN A THRILLING HONEYMOON
MY LOVE IS MINE AND I FEEL FINE, A BLISSFUL STATE
YOU DON’T HAVE TO PARTECIPATE
I’M IN LOVE AND IT’S MY BUSINESS, IT’S SUCH A SWEETNESS
‘CAUSE I’M FREE TO FEEL INFINITY, INFINITY, INFINITY, INFINITY
YOU WALK AWAY, DON’T EVEN SAY GOODBYE, OH MY!
AND I WONDER, SHOULD I EVER BE CRYING?
YOU DON’T CONNECT, YOU DON’T TEXT, NO WHATSAPP AND YET
I CAN FIND NOTHING TO OBJECT
I’M IN LOVE AND IT’S MY BUSINESS, I’M LIKE A PRIESTESS
AND YOU DON’T HAVE TO BE IN LOVE WITH ME, DON’T HAVE TO BE
I’M IN LOVE AND IT’S MY BUSINESS, FEEL LIKE A PRINCESS
‘CAUSE I’M FREE TO FEEL INFINITY, INFINITY, INFINITY, INFINITY, INFINITY
TRADUZIONE
Te ne vai, non mi saluti, mio Dio,
mi chiedo se dovrei piangere
non ti connetti, non messaggi, niente whatsapp eppure
non trovo niente da obiettare
perché sono innamorata e sono fatti miei, è di una tale completezza
e non occorre che tu sia innamorato di me, innamorato di me
Mi hai mollata qui, stai con lei, ma non m’importa, suppongo
che tu sia in un’eccitante luna di miele
Il mio amore è mio, sto bene, uno stato di grazia
non occorre che tu partecipi
Sono innamorata e sono fatti miei, è di una tale dolcezza
perché mi sento libera di sentire l’infinito, l’infinito
Te ne vai, nemmeno saluti, mio Dio,
mi chiedo, dovrei forse piangere?
non ti connetti, non messaggi, niente whatsapp eppure
non trovo niente da obiettare
Sono innamorata e sono fatti miei, sono come una sacerdotessa
e non occorre che tu sia innamorato di me, non occorre
Sono innamorata e sono fatti miei, mi sento una principessa
perché sono libera di sentire l’infinito, l’infinito, l’infinito.
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