“A thousand lips I would love to taste
I've got one heart and it hurts like hell
If you can't rock me somebody will
If you can't rock me somebody will”(Jagger Richards)
Italian version at the link :La mia fiamma si raffredda
This song describes the uncomfortable state of being put 'on hold' by another person's lack of clarity or interest.
It can be a relationship, as well as a project, that is struggling to get off the ground because we are dealing with an indecisive or unconvinced partner. We feel that we have done our 50% of the work, while the other does not move, or only pays lip service. In some cases, the same relationship or the same project is not even mentioned anymore.
All this extinguishes our enthusiasm, our love or creative flame, feelings stagnate and everything becomes very tepid and unmotivating. The other person will certainly have all his reasons and resistance, even humanly shareable. However, he or she lacks the fire, the spark needed to ignite and give life to the relationship or project in a concrete and mature way.
What to do? The second verse of the song suggests to 'drop the bone', that is, the character who is now more of a hindrance than a help, and rely on one's own strength. I understand that it is not an easy choice, especially if feelings and emotions are involved, but deluding ourselves that a person will change for us condemns us to an eternal stalemate - similar to the lockdowns that our rulers have been lovingly administering for quite some time.
After all, if a person does not make clear moves, it may already be, in fact, a declaration of loss of interest in us or in our shared project. He may also have arrived or come into contact with his own limits and blocks, so he has every right to manage them as he sees fit, without pressure from us.
So let's gather our strength, let's regain possession of the energies invested in the other and let's use them instead to get out of limbo, to get self-fulfilled and self-realized.
Here are the video, the lyrics and the Italian translation of the song.
Video: My Flame Gets Cold
MY FLAME GETS COLD
I’M STILL WAITING FOR AN ACT OF WILL FROM YOU
SOME DECISION, MAYBE A COURAGEOUS MOVE
YET, YOU LEAVE ME IN MY SOLITUDE AGAIN
IF YOU WEREN’T SO HYPOTHETICAL
THEN I WOULDN’T BE SADLY CYNICAL
YET, YOU LEAVE ME IN THE DESERT ALL ALONE
‘CAUSE YOU DON’T DARE, SO I DON’T CARE
IF YOU STAY THERE, DON’T COME ALONG
MY FALME GETS COLD, AND I DON’T KNOW
IF I STILL WANT YOU ANYMORE,
MY FLAME GETS COLD, MY FLAME GETS COLD
SELF-IGNITING, SELF-FECUNDATING, MY
MIND KEEPS OPENING AND STOPS WAITING
FOR YOU, FOR ANYONE, THERE’S NO SAVIOR OUT THERE
THERE’S NO ENEMY, I’M MY ONLY WORLD
II’M THE SILNCE OF A SINKING UNIVERSE
EYES ARE OPENIG, I CAN SEE AT LAST
IF YOU DON’T DARE, THE FACT IS CLEAR
YOU WON’T COME HERE ANYMORE
MY FLAME GETS COLD, THE FLAME GETS COLD
AND I DON’T NEED YOU ANYMORE
La mia fiamma si raffredda
Sto ancora aspettando un atto di volontà da parte tua
una qualche decisione, forse una mossa coraggiosa
eppure mi lasci di nuovo nella mia solitudine
Se tu non fossi così ipotetico
io non sarei tristemente cinica
eppure mi lasci nel deserto da sola
perché tu non osi, così io me ne sbatto,
se resti là, non venir da me
la mia fiamma si raffredda, e io non so
se ti voglio ancora o no
la mia fiamma si raffredda
la mia mente continua ad aprirsi e smette di attendere
te, o chiunque altro, non c’è nessun salvatore là fuori
Non c’è nessun nemico, io sono il mio unico mondo
sono il silenzio di un universo che affonda
gli occhi si aprono, posso vedere, alla fine
Se tu non osi, il fatto è chiaro
non verrai più qui
la mia fiamma si raffredda, la fiamma si raffredda
e non ho più bisogno di te
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