BAD IN BED: my new song

"...so marriage was for me the only way to finally renounce men, my husband first of all.”(Sara Bini)

Versione italiana al link: Pessima a letto

This song is ironic about some of the stereotypes related to women in patriarchal culture. The perfect woman is good in bed and in the kitchen, or at least she has to be able to pretend to be.  Also, while the human male seems to be able to afford a big belly, a Yoghi bear-like hair and love-handles, the female of the same species must always be shaved, perfumed, well-groomed and super-accessorized. All these things are not heavy or binding when they are done also for personal pleasure, but they become money-eating and time-eating chains when one has to please a hypothetical ‘he’ or the beauty canons of society. 

The song therefore celebrates an atypical woman, in whom I obviously recognize myself a lot and that I have struggled to accept, being very much in contrast with what both women and men in my life expected from me. In fact, it was my experiences with my partners or my friends that helped me to bring out, among thousands attempts and horrors, what I now recognize as my individuality. Peace to the soul of those who wanted me - and want me or believe me - different.

When a real process of self-affection begins, I would almost dare to say a 'healthy falling in love' with oneself, it is the beginning of the most beautiful love story you can imagine. Try to believe.  It is also the right starting point for a healthy love for the other: less invasive, less vampire-like and less judgmental. First of all, you need to have the courage to know yourself, even in all your essential human shortcomings and imperfections; then you need to be able to embrace them, while embracing those of everyone else. This obviously does not mean that you have to go and eat pizza with everyone or that you have to listen to complaints from morning to night for the love of your neighbour.

When you love yourself, you start living a life of peace, especially internally: you create your own ethical rules in line with the principle of harmlessness and you create your own lines of action, according to your authentic desires and needs. You could almost live in a kind of paradise, if you weren’t constantly confronted with a planet practicing values opposite to yours or where many people try to fill their internal voids at the expense of others.

However, at that point, you are also able to live serenely alone, to get refreshed and oxygenated before putting yourself back into the crazy babel of today's society. And then who knows, as if by some miracle, you might even meet the gaze of another seeker, another restless soul thirsty for the Infinite and for freedom like you... and the path becomes less solitary.

Here is the video of English version of the song, then you can find the lyrics and the Italian translation:

BAD IN BED

I’M BAD IN BED AND IN EVERY OTHER POSSIBLE ROOM

I DON’T LIKE SEX, AND I DON’T COOK , DON’T WANNA COOK

BUT IN MY STUDIO I’M THE BEST

I’M SO PERFECT AT MY DESK, VERY INTERESTED

I’M BIG-BRAINED AND SMALL-BREASTED

I CAN SING, WRITE AND DRAW, I GOT IDEaS OF MY OWN AND ROCK’N’ ROLL

I GOT ROCK’N’ROLL, YOU CAN GET IT ALL

I’M BAD IN BED….

I’M BAD IN BED….

I’M UNTALENTED EVERYWHERE, IN THE KITCHEN, IN THE GARDEN

I HATE MASSAGES AND BODY OILS AND CUTE FRENCH NAILS

BUT IN MY STUDIO I’M THE BEST, I’M WELL-DRESSED AND FULLY EXPRESSED, I’M MYSELF

I WONDER WHY, YOU’RE SO OBSESSED

I’M THE WORST WOMAN YOU CAN MEET, IF YOU INSIST YOU’RE MASOCHIST, JUST LISTEN THIS

CAN’T YOU LISTEN THIS, IT’S MY GOODBYE KISS

I’M BAD IN BED….

I’M BAD IN BED….

TRADUZIONE:

Pessima a letto

Sono pessima a letto e in ogni altra stanza possibile

non mi piace il sesso e non cucino, non ho voglia di cucinare

ma nel mio studio sono la migliore, così perfetta alla mia scrivania, molto interessata

ho il cervello grosso e il seno piccolo

posso cantare, scrivere e disegnare, ho idee mie e rock’n’roll, ho il rock’n’roll, puoi averlo tutto

sono pessima a letto

sono pessima a letto

Non ho talento da nessuna parte, in cucina, in giardino

odio i massaggi e gli oli per il corpo e il French alle unghie

Ma nel mio studio sono la migliore, sono ben vestita e mi esprimo pienamente, sono me stessa

mi chiedo come mai tu sia così ossessionato

sono la peggiore donna che puoi incontrare 

se insisti sei un masochista, ascolta questo

non riesci ad ascoltare questo? È il mio bacio di addio

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