“I sometimes think that God in creating man somewhat overestimated his ability.” (Oscar Wilde)
Let's face it: it's true that you never stop getting to know a person, but it's also true that sometimes a few dates or a few days are enough to understand that it's not the right air and turn your heels. In such cases, in my opinion very lucky, the illusions are nipped in the bud because at least one of the two potential partners quickly realize that there is not much consistence between the woman or man he/she had imagined and the one or the one in front of him/her.
It is a flash of intelligence or at least of intellectual honesty, and this is not because we feel Carl Jung or the magician Otelma, capable of reading the innermost folds of the human mind. We are simply in contact with our needs or desires and consequently, we are aware of the inevitable projections we put on the other. Once we realize this, we give ourselves peace and give peace to the unfortunate or unfortunate one we have met, and eventually we go looking elsewhere.
Some, however, do not give up, convinced that they can "heal" the other with the infallible balm of their love and devotion, which then concretely translates into wanting to shape him/her according to their own personal interests. Such attempts at manipulation range from the most innocent pretending to adhere to the tastes and passions of the other, in order to impress him/her, to the expression of aggressiveness and wisdom in case of rejection. At that point, they rise up to the Gautama Buddha of the life of others, giving advice or unsolicited auspices in order to cure a bit the blow inflicted on their own self-esteem. And it's all right, I have done it and I still do it, I have suffered it and I still suffer it, it is part of the game of human relationships, of their intrinsic imperfection and their infinite potential for learning.
For some time now, I have found a way to make use of this attitude to Sigmund Freud 'of the rest of us' when I feel it emerging in me. I have observed how the advice or the opinion, I so generously give to another, is actually a valuable indication that I myself had better follow. If I am honest and intelligent enough, I notice that every human shortcoming, to some extent, belongs to me or has belonged to me. If it no longer represents me, it is only because I have intentionally worked on it. Likewise, there is no human peak or beauty that cannot belong to me sooner or later. I write ironic and deliberately caricatured songs precisely because I first turn that provocative charge on myself, smiling lightly and compassionately at my own and others' humanity.
Here is the video of English version of the song, then you can find the lyrics and the Italian translation:
THE MORE I KNOW YOU THE LESS I LIKE YOU
I HADN’T REALIZED I HAD A BUDDHA ON MY SIDE
SO MUCH WISDOM FOR FREE, HOW COULD I HAVE BEEN SO MEAN?
PASSIVE-AGGRESSIVE, PSYCHOTIC AND OBSESSIVE
I WOULD NEVER BE YOU
I’M ESTRANGED AND DERANGED, CYNICAL AND VAIN BUT I
WOULD NEVER BE YOU
THE MORE I KNOW YOU THE LESS I LIKE YOU
YOU DIDN’T UNDERSTAND ME AT ALL
YHE MORE I KNOW YOU THE LESS I LIKE YOU
YOU DIDN’T EVEN LISTEN AT ALL
YOU DIDN’T EVEN LISTEN AT ALL
THANK YOU FOR THE ADVICE, I SEE YOUVE LED A GREAT LIFE
YOU’VE GOT EXPERIENCE TO SHARE, FROM THE TOP OF YOUR CHAIR
PASSIVE, INACTIVE, DEPENDANT AND SYMBIOTIC
I WOULD NEVER BE YOU
I’M BAD AND SO SELFISH, NARCISSIST AND DEVILISH BUT
I WOULD NEVER BE YOU
THE MORE I KNOW YOU THE LESS I LIKE YOU
I DIDN’T UNDERSTAND YOU AT ALL
THE MORE I KNOW YOU THE MORE I IGNORE YOU
WE DIDN’T GET EACH OTHER AT ALL
WE DIDN’T GET EACH OTHER AT ALL
THE MORE I KNOW YOU THE LESS I LIKE YOU
WE’LL NEVER FIT TOGETHER AT ALL
THE MORE I KNOW YOU THE MORE I IGNORE YOU
WE WON’T EVER GET TOGETHER AT ALL
THANK GOD, THANK GOD
WE WON’T EVER FIT TOGETHER AT ALL
THANK GOD, THANK GOD
WE’LL NEVER FIT TOGETHER AT ALL…
TRADUZIONE IN ITALIANO:
PIÙ TI CONOSCO E MENO MI PIACI
Non mi ero accorta di avere un buddha al mio fianco
così tanta saggezza, come ho potuto essere così meschina?
Passivo-aggressivo, psicotico e ossessivo
non vorrei essere te
sono estraniata e disturbata, cinica e vanitosa
ma non vorrei essere te
Più ti conosco e meno mi piaci
non mi hai capito per niente
Più ti conosco e meno mi piaci
nemmeno mi hai ascoltato per niente
nemmeno mi hai ascoltato per niente
Grazie per il consiglio, vedo che hai condito una vita eccezionale
hai esperienza da vendere, dall’alto della tua sedia
Passivo, inattivo, dipendente e simbiotico
non vorrei essere te
sono cattiva ed così egoista, diabolica e narcisista ma
non vorrei essere te
Più ti conosco e meno mi piaci
non ti ho capito proprio per niente
più ti conosco e più ti ignoro
non ci siamo capiti per niente
non ci siamo capito per niente
Più ti conosco e meno mi piaci
non ci completeremo mai
più ti conosco e più ti ignoro
non finiremo mai insieme
grazie a Dio, grazie a Dio
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